Thank you Sally Davis for giving me the perfect image for my vision.
Over the weekend, I had the awesome pleasure of hosting an extremely soulful and fulfilling event. The event was a combination of various artistic expressions entitled “Soothe”. It featured dance, spoken word, and various forms of jazz and Neo Soul, followed by a serious after party of the old school type.
Everyone who attended agreed that it was worth every minute. Most are also asking when the next one will be. As I reflect on that evening my thoughts are incredibly lifted and I cannot help but feel warm and fuzzy inside. Apart from the obvious success of the evening, what remains with me most ishow the individual who conceptualized it- Gemma Hazelwood – speaks about the execution of his dream. “It was practically as close to perfection in terms of how I pictured it in my mind”. Ah-haa!! Those are the words that have been speaking volumes to me for the last few days. Those words have inspired this post.
We have all heard of the necessary ingredients for creating success in our lives, for fulfilling potential, for achieving self actualization, and manifesting our heart’s desires. Unfortunately most people acknowledge these ingredients theoretically and not practically. Having listened carefully to Gemma’s enthusiastic chain of events leading up to the successful debut of “Soothe”, and paying attention to the serendipitous occurrences that have been happening in my own life, I am now taking this opportunity to share my beliefs on how you can make your dreams become a reality.
Hold that vision. Never let it go!
You know that thought in your mind about the place you want to visit, the thing you want to do, the person you want to be? Close your eyes and picture it. That’s right, add some colour, add sounds, and touch something or someone in that vision. Give the vision some time to form lines, texture, colour, audio, a background, a setting. Imagine how you would feel if you actually achieved that vision. Feel those sentiments and emotions coming into being. Yes you can even get a little carried away. Now STOP! Hold that vision exactly the way you want it to be. Hold it, Hold it, Hold it… now don’t let it go. You should be able to call on your vision exactly as you have imagined it at any time. Gemma had this vision in mind for well over two years. For other people their visions and dreams have been in a holding pattern for much longer. Having and holding the vision is not enough BUT it is a first step.
I don’t mean ANY body! Share your vision with someone who will encourage you and inspire you to work towards that dream. Sometimes we share our dreams with the wrong people. These people don’t recognize that their less than positive comments move us in a backward direction instead of forward. Sometimes we don’t recognize that the person or people who we have chosen to share our dreams with bear no ill will. We must recognize that they are simply working from their frame of mind which may have an overly negative outlook. Choose wisely.
Regardless of what a person says, what circumstances say, what people say, what your Mom, Dad, Aunty or Cousin said, this dream has been given to YOU! It is yours. The burden or rather responsibility of birthing that dream is YOURS not anyone else’s. Believe that you have what it takes, you can find or create what it takes, and you can take little steps to making YOUR dream a reality. You must believe.
Assemble your Dream team.
One of my favourite quotes comes from a book that I first read many moons ago, The Alchemist. (You should really own a copy). “When you want something, the entire universe conspires to help you achieve it.” The quote itself is said to have been a variant of one by Ralph Waldo Emerson. I really don’t care who wrote it first. What I know is that my experience has shown me that this is so. So now, you have shared your dream, you believe with all your heart that you must make it a reality, and you are holding fast to your vision. What now? “No man is an island”.
Who can you reach out to who may be able to lead you in the right direction? Who can help pull the pieces together? Do you need to get uncomfortable and do things you have never done before? Which individual is the one who will most likely take you down the golden brick road? Who? Where do you find this person or these people? This element of creating the reality is one that must be approached with care. Put a lot of thought into this equation as it will be the thing that makes or breaks the vision.
It may be writing your dream (it really should START with putting it on paper). It may include calls, visits, research, conversations ( not just TALK!), and budget planning. Whatever it takes for your particular dream, you MUST TAKE ACTION!
Steer Clear of Naysayers, Nitpickers and Negative Nancy’s
They will drain your energy, kill your spirit and suck your soul. Enough said! Run dreamer! Run!!!
Refine your vision
You have been doing a successful job of holding that vision in your mind for some time. Pull it out of its holding cell and put it into focus again. This time, take it apart. Look at every part of that vision and put a mirror to it. Look at the mirror image and then the original image. How does it look? Is anything missing? Is there anything you might want to add based on the input you have gotten from trusted friends and your “dream team?” Based on your research and current knowledge, is there anything that does not fit the vision ? How can you make that vision clearer? How can you make it more attractive? What else do you need to consider to work on making it a reality? Part of the meaning of the word “refine” is “to make pure” “to make precise to a fine degree”. How precise is your vision? Again, finding the answers to this part takes time, effort and energy. How important is your dream? Do you have the time? Will you make the time?
Break Out Your Inner “Carlton”!
Celebrate small victories along the way to your milestones. If you do not learn to celebrate even small victories, when the main victory arrives, you may very well not be able to celebrate the depth, significance and brilliance of your achievement.
Be a Part of Someone Else’s Dream Scene.
Do you know that oftentimes, in trying to fulfill your own dreams, you are inadvertently filling in a piece of another person’s dream puzzle? This happens quite often without us even knowing it. As a matter of fact, while you chart your course and opportunities are presented to collaborate with various people, a great question to ask is “How can I help YOU?” “How can I serve YOU?”. Therein lies the greatest fulfillment that is second only to realizing your own vision. It is helping someone else along the way.
Honour the Lessons and the Journey. Be Grateful.
Gratitude is a practice that has been a part of my life for many years. It is a practice that extends to all things – negative and positive. I firmly believe that being constantly in gratitude opens doors, lightens moods and creates a number of other positive outcomes in life. So while you dream and work on your baby steps, realize that each moment, each lesson, each mis-step, each piece added or subtracted to the vision requires a recognition, an honouring, of where you are now. Where you hope to be will take care of itself if you continue to exist in a state of constant gratitude. It’s easy to believe that there is nothing to be grateful for. Whenever you have those moments, reframe the situation. You will find a reason to be grateful.
Fellow dreamer. Here’s to you. Here’s to us. Let’s make it happen! How can I serve YOU?
“If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.”